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Dealing With Life After A Break Up

  • 2018-10-12 12:14
  • 아시아뉴스통신=Ian Maclang 기자
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Nothing in this world is an exception to being temporary, even relationships. Relationships, no matter what the length, will always meet a certain end. And after that, it leaves you in a whirlwind of emotions. How exactly can you deal with life post-breakup?

Breaking up has different effects on everybody. For some, it may offer them some peace and quiet if they have been anticipating the break up for a long time. While for others, it may hit them with grief and unpleasant emotions.  

When a break up leaves you in pain, there’s a number of things you have to face all at once. For instance, if you and your previous partner may have lived together, it’s either you move out or he/she moves out. After that, you are left with loneliness and silence.
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Although these will momentarily fix the pain, the experience could give you even bigger problems in the future. With drinking, you might end up drinking too much. And with food, you might eat to an unhealthy extent. Out of desperation to face the pain, you may or may not resort to unwanted ways to cope. The common mistake most people do after breaking up is resorting to vices such as drinking. Others use food, and eat their heart out.

Sheri Meyers, marriage therapist and author of Chatting or Cheating, gave the Huffington Post a number of helpful advice when dealing with a breakup.

On the premise of food, Meyers says to avoid depending on food to fix your feelings forever.

It’s better to take care of your body, and to get out more. However, this also sometimes becomes a problem.

When taking care of your body, Meyers recommends exercise because it’s the opposite of the sulking we all had in mind. A problem occurs when, despite exercising, people do too much of it. Exercise, but regulate the amount of exercise you get.

In every breakup, it’s important to acknowledge the pain. It may take some time to accept that the pain is there, but you shouldn’t bottle it in for too long, because it’s at that point when your emotions start to become unhealthy.

Some people don’t like showing their emotions, but it’s never a bad thing to at least give in to the pain. In some cases, it even grants you the biggest relief.

“You’ve gotta feel,” says Meyers. “If you feel like crying, cry. If you’re pushing your feelings down, they’re just going to make you calloused or afraid.”

It’s also unhealthy to start hating on your previous partner, because this will affect both you and your future partner negatively.
Petra Boynton who writes for The Telegraph says that sometimes time will be your best bet to get over someone. Over time, you can do what you enjoy, reconnect with yourself, or dismiss whatever bitterness built up between you and your previous partner.

And finally, you should not keep yourself from going out there and meeting new people once again. A breakup is rough, but that does not justify that everybody you meet along the way will be just as bad.

There is no rush in starting a new relationship, as stated by Boynton. Go at your own pace, and choose whatever is more beneficial to you. Love is sure to come your way, do not discourage yourself from that thought.

As stated earlier, things are temporary. The pain is temporary. You won’t sulk forever. You may have remnants of what happened, but they will remain with you as lessons to bring along as you go on with your everyday life. Just be strong.

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